Dealing with depression fallout requires first and foremost an
understanding that your depression sufferer has a common, treatable
illness, and that its symptoms are those listed below. In the right-hand column
are the ones doctors use to diagnose depression. In the left-hand
column are the unofficial, but nonetheless real-life, symptoms that you
observe, especially when you are alone together.
| UNOFFICIAL SYMPTOMS |
OFFICIAL SYMPTOMS |
| self-absorbed, unaware or unconcerned about the needs of others |
a persistent sad, "empty" or anxious mood |
| unresponsive, uncommunicative, aloof |
loss of interest or pleasure in activities previously enjoyed,
including sex |
| changeable and unpredictable; illogical and unreasonable |
sleep and appetite disturbances |
| manipulative |
difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions |
| pleasant and charming in public, the opposite at home |
feelings of hopelessness, pessimism |
| makes inexplicable and sudden references to separation and divorce |
irritability, excessive crying |
| belittling and critical, and sometimes mean |
thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts |
| increased use of alcohol and drugs |
chronic aches and pains that don't respond to treatment |
The unofficial list of symptoms explains why depressive illness undermines
good relationships and disrupts families. Identifying, understanding, and learning how to cope with
these symptoms is the first step in helping both the person you love and yourself.
The book suggests ways to tell your loved one that he or she may be depressed, and persuade them to
seek help for diagnosis and treatment.
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